Book cover of Relentless Solution Focus by Ellen Reed

Ellen Reed

Relentless Solution Focus

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Every situation can be improved—focus on solutions rather than problems, and unlock your greatest potential.

1. The Human Mind Is Hardwired for Negativity

Our brains naturally lean toward focusing on problems, a phenomenon called problem-centric thought (PCT). This tendency leads to stress and wasted mental energy, making it hard for us to reach our goals. It's like staring endlessly at a locked door and forgetting to check for keys in your pocket.

The authors highlight how unchecked negative thinking limits what we believe we can achieve. For instance, when challenges arise, we often spiral deeper into feelings of helplessness, which prevents us from thinking clearly about solutions. This negativity also exhausts us emotionally, reducing our resilience.

However, PCT isn't a permanent fixture. By training our brains to adopt Relentless Solution Focus (RSF), we can break this cycle. RSF isn’t about ignoring problems—it’s about immediately shifting focus to improve the situation. This ability to actively resist negativity requires practice and intention.

Examples

  • People stuck in traffic often dwell on frustration, but RSF thinking would steer them toward alternate routes.
  • A basketball coach might critique errors after games, but a solution-centered approach would include suggestions for improvement.
  • A parent anxious about a child’s bad grades could refocus on helping them study or using tutoring.

2. Stop Overanalyzing Problems

Contrary to popular belief, obsessing over problems doesn’t lead to solutions; it widens the negativity trap. When we dwell on what’s wrong, we feed the loop of pessimistic thoughts instead of breaking free.

Instead, RSF teaches us to simplify our approach. After allowing yourself a brief moment to consider the issue (no more than 60 seconds), you should immediately shift focus to solutions. The authors stress that solutions don’t have to be perfect. They just need to be actionable steps to move forward, however small.

For instance, skipping long periods of overthinking nudges us to act decisively. By consistently practicing this method, we build mental toughness and lay the groundwork for healthier, more proactive ways of addressing challenges.

Examples

  • NFL coach Bill Belichick shifts focus to what can improve future plays rather than dwelling on past mistakes.
  • A stressed employee reframes office conflicts by asking, "What practical step can I take to reduce this tension?"
  • Business owners struggling with budgets can zero in on one cost-cutting measure instead of panicking about the entire situation.

3. Replace Negatives With Positives in 60 Seconds

The longer negativity lingers, the harder it becomes to shake. RSF introduces a strategy where you replace negative thoughts with solution-oriented ones within 60 seconds. This small-time window keeps fear, anger, or frustration from hijacking your thinking.

Harboring negative emotions releases cortisol, the stress hormone, which worsens our mood and decision-making. On the other hand, switching gears toward solutions sparks positive brain chemicals like dopamine, improving clarity and motivation. The trick is to recognize when negativity creeps in and redirect your focus immediately.

Retraining your brain may be uncomfortable at first, but persistence pays off. The 60-second rule helps establish a new thinking norm, putting optimism back within reach.

Examples

  • A student stuck on a difficult assignment shifts focus by asking, “What’s one resource that could help me?”
  • A manager enduring difficult client meetings could write a small, actionable step after every encounter.
  • A teacher facing unmotivated students might focus on engaging just one student better each day.

4. Focus on What You Can Control

When faced with adversity, dwelling on what’s uncontrollable is a dead end. Instead, RSF encourages us to zero in on what we can change. This mindset shift empowers us to take meaningful action even when circumstances seem overwhelming.

For instance, someone struggling with health issues can’t always cure the ailment but can control their habits, such as eating better or exercising. Similarly, when overwhelmed with daunting problems, start by fixing just one small, feasible piece of the puzzle.

This approach not only keeps negativity at bay but also builds your confidence by showing that improvement is possible—even in the face of major setbacks.

Examples

  • A homeowner upset about dead grass might start with simple fixes like watering regularly instead of fretting over the whole yard.
  • An overworked employee feeling isolated could take one immediate step, like reconnecting with a colleague over lunch.
  • A team leader facing workplace disputes can start addressing communication issues instead of waiting for harmony to magically appear.

5. Divide Problems Into Manageable Steps

When problems feel overwhelming, the RSF method offers a simple, effective solution: break them into smaller, achievable pieces. By focusing on “What is the first step I can take?” you make progress feel achievable.

Overloading your to-do list only creates unnecessary pressure and stress. Instead, identify one immediate action you can take to make progress. Accomplishing that single task helps restore confidence. Over time, these incremental improvements build momentum.

A great example is financial advisor James, who broke his overwhelming workload into three smaller tasks per day, steadily addressing all his client issues without overburdening himself.

Examples

  • Breaking long-term fitness goals into daily 30-minute exercise sessions avoids burnout and builds consistency.
  • A novelist overwhelmed by writer’s block might start with a goal of just writing 100 words a day.
  • Tackling student loans step by step—focusing on one loan at a time—reduces financial stress.

6. Set Life Goals And Daily Habits

Success takes intentional planning. RSF encourages setting both long- and short-term goals and aligning these with your daily actions. When paired with a life vision, these habits act as a GPS guiding you toward greater fulfillment.

To create this connection, think about your ideal life three to ten years from now. Then break that vision into concrete, realistic goals you can work on daily. Every small milestone adds up to long-term accomplishment, boosting your sense of purpose with every step forward.

Transforming dreams into measurable actions ensures consistent progress. Goals become more than abstract hopes—they turn into actionable roadmaps.

Examples

  • Setting short-term personal goals, like running a 5k, can align with longer-term visions of maintaining good health.
  • An entrepreneur aiming for higher profits might set a weekly budget review habit.
  • Writing daily reflections can help anyone clarify goals and track progress toward self-improvement.

7. Celebrate Small Wins And Improvements

Humans often overlook small successes because perfectionism clouds our perspective. However, recognizing even tiny victories builds confidence and encourages resilience.

Whether it’s meeting a deadline early or finally fixing an argument, small wins deserve attention. By pausing to acknowledge what went right, we create positive reinforcement. This mental reward encourages further action and improvement.

Even unsuccessful attempts shouldn’t be seen in black-and-white. Instead of fixating on failure, review what worked and identify one thing to improve for the next attempt.

Examples

  • A student preparing for an exam celebrates completing half of the study topics early.
  • A coach reviews game tapes and credits players for correct team drills even during losing games.
  • Recognizing daily victories like healthier lunch choices reinforces weight-loss motivation.

8. Develop Mental Toughness Through Consistent Practice

Mental toughness enhances problem-solving, and it’s not just for athletes. The RSF “Mental Workout” is a daily exercise designed to train focus and maintain positivity under pressure.

The workout involves visualization of success, identity mantra repetition, and centering breaths. This brief mental routine prepares the brain to handle daily challenges with clarity and determination. Consistency ensures long-term results, creating confidence and resilience through practiced mindset control.

Research shows that athletes, executives, and students all perform better when engaging in such exercises regularly.

Examples

  • Golf legend Jack Nicklaus visualized every perfect shot before swinging, honing focus and eliminating doubt.
  • Entrepreneurs use mindfulness exercises to prepare for pitches or stressful meetings.
  • Public speakers mentally rehearse presentations for confidence under pressure.

9. Shift From Perfectionism To Progress

Perfectionism often paralyzes us. People with this mentality hesitate to act, fearing they won't meet impossibly high standards. Shifting the emphasis from “perfect” to “improve” removes this pressure, allowing steady growth instead of inaction.

By adopting the RSF mindset, people learn not just to critique failure but to treat it as a stepping stone for better results. A relentless commitment to small, consistent upgrades builds mastery over time.

The St. Louis Cardinals illustrate this principle—they embraced feedback and incremental practice to fine-tune their successes.

Examples

  • Writers improve drafts through steady feedback instead of aiming for flawlessness on the first try.
  • Businesses test products with minimal viable versions, welcoming imperfections in return for quicker innovation.
  • Athletes focus on cutting seconds off their race time rather than aiming for instant gold performances.

Takeaways

  1. Spend one minute daily on the RSF Mental Workout: visualize success, repeat a positive mantra, and take centering breaths.
  2. Keep a Success Log to note daily wins and small actions for improvement—building confidence and direction.
  3. When faced with challenges, ask, “What’s one simple step I can take to improve this situation right now?”

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