Book cover of The Garden Within by Anita Phillips

Anita Phillips

The Garden Within

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What if your heart wasn't a battlefield to conquer but rather a garden to nurture and grow, rich with emotional vitality?

1. The Heart as a Garden

Our hearts are like gardens, fertile soil that nurtures every seed—positive or negative—that life plants. Anita Phillips introduces this concept by reflecting on a fifth-grade science experiment where seeds grew between wet paper towels. This experiment demonstrated that growth often begins in unexpected ways and places.

Phillips draws a parallel between gardens and the emotional seeds sown in childhood. Life's experiences—such as trauma, love, or faith—plant seeds that influence how we grow emotionally and spiritually. Like weeds in a garden, negative emotions such as grief or anger can take root if left untended. But, with care and cultivation, we can encourage positive growth amid the challenges.

By examining the parable of the sower in the book of Matthew, Phillips explains that the condition of our "heart-soil" affects the fruitfulness of the seeds planted there. Jesus’s life serves as an example, illustrating that emotions—whether joy, sorrow, or pain—are not weaknesses but integral to our humanity.

Examples

  • Phillips recalls how childhood faith planted seeds of strength alongside those of trauma.
  • Jesus’s emotive prayer in the Garden of Gethsemane shows how even divine sorrow is valid and strengthening.
  • The Gospel parable, where Jesus discusses how soil types (our hearts) determine the success of seeds (words), underscores this message.

2. Embrace Emotions to Grow

Feelings are not failures; they are indicators of our inner state and opportunities for growth. Phillips argues that emotions should not be suppressed or fought against but rather embraced and understood.

Through the story of Lena and John, Phillips shows how addressing emotions rather than ignoring them can lead to healing. After their son's challenging diagnosis, John's emotional turmoil affected his faith. A support group provided him the emotional space he needed. This renewed his connections and shifted his feelings of despair into hope and strength.

Phillips emphasizes that our mental health depends on acknowledging our emotional and spiritual needs as interrelated aspects of life. Growth happens when we reflect on and care for our internal garden, embracing even the weeds for the lessons they bring.

Examples

  • Lena found empowerment by focusing on emotional support instead of solely Bible study.
  • Johns’ outlook improved after building friendships in the group.
  • The interplay between heart and mind in the Bible shows the need to address emotions to change thoughts.

3. The Connection Between Feelings and the Body

Our feelings aren’t just mental; they're physical, and understanding this connection unlocks self-awareness. During a therapy session with Brian, Phillips demonstrated how identifying physical sensations of sadness—like tightness in his chest—helped him process his grief and reduced his chronic pain levels.

The Garden of Eden teaches us that human life is both physical and spiritual. Adam’s formation from dust connects our physical bodies to our emotional experiences. The Bible’s imagery of the Tree of Life mirrors our vagus nerve, which ties together our brain, heart, and gut.

By tuning into physical sensations and understanding their emotional roots, Phillips highlights that we can heal more effectively and deepen our connection with ourselves. Recognizing emotions as bodily experiences aligns beautifully with the biblical view of our bodies as temples.

Examples

  • Brian’s physical awareness of emotions alleviated his pain significantly.
  • The vagus nerve connects bodily functions to emotional regulation.
  • Jesus’s physical suffering reinforces the unity of body and emotional experience.

4. Healing Through Grief

Sadness and grief shape us profoundly, and honoring them is key to stepping forward. Phillips recalls Keshia’s therapy journey, where unprocessed loneliness and longing for partnership left her spiritually isolated. Her untreated sadness affected her well-being, likened to soil compacted so tightly that growth was stifled.

To counteract these emotions, Keshia engaged in physical and spiritual exercises to revive her spirit. Essential steps included reconnecting with her body through movement and deep breathing while reflecting on moments when God surprised her.

Acknowledging sorrow instead of shaming it grants us space for hope to rise, as seen in Romans 5:1-5. Through active engagement with grief—be it through therapy, faith, or somatic practice—despair bends toward healing.

Examples

  • Keshia addressed emotional numbness by practicing body reactivation through controlled movements.
  • The Rise Up exercise helped Keshia connect her physical sensations with spiritual hope.
  • Biblical teachings suggest that hope often emerges from life's challenging moments.

5. Anger as Fire

Phillips explores how anger, often seen as destructive, can fuel necessary transformation when handled with intention. Michelle’s story illustrates this. After years of therapy for abuse, she found her anger reignited at a family gathering where her abuser was honored. Instead of destroying her relationships, however, her anger empowered her to demand respect and establish boundaries.

Anger is often accompanied by heat and tension, physical manifestations that can be explored to dissipate its negative energy. The “Firewood” exercise, a physical activity involving chopping motions, is one of the tools Phillips offers for releasing anger constructively.

Recognizing anger as energy that can build or destroy equips us to choose paths of healing. It is a feeling that calls for mindfulness and empowerment, not suppression or shame.

Examples

  • Michelle used anger to set respectful boundaries with her family.
  • The Firewood exercise transformed anger into productive energy.
  • Biblical references reveal how even Jesus expressed righteous anger to institute change.

6. Tending Your Embodied Garden

Self-care is non-negotiable when maintaining physical and emotional balance. Phillips stresses the importance of viewing our bodies as gardens requiring water, sunlight, and nutrients in the form of sleep, hydration, and nutrition.

The vagus nerve, our internal Tree of Life, benefits from activities like deep breathing, singing, and spending time outdoors. These practices reduce tension, improve mood, and promote spiritual connection by grounding us in creation.

Ultimately, tending to our garden means consistently caring for our spirit, heart, mind, and body, all of which are interconnected parts of one system that thrive through balance and care.

Examples

  • Sleep and hydration impacts emotional regulation directly, reducing stress and anxiety.
  • Time in nature activates the vagus nerve, promoting inner tranquility.
  • Church music strengthens emotional and physical wellness by engaging breathing systems.

Takeaways

  1. Regularly scan your emotions and pay attention to how they feel in your body. Use them as signals of what your heart needs.
  2. Create daily habits that care for your “garden”—drink water, get adequate sleep, and connect with nature to support your heart, mind, and body.
  3. Practice spiritual exercises, like the Rise Up or Firewood exercises, to honor and process your emotions constructively.

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